What is Your Gem Personality? The Answer Can Make You A Better Writer!
Have you taken a personality test before?
I always learn something new about myself from them. But they’ve never told me how to use the information to better my life.
It’s great to know that I’m “driven” and “talkative.” But without an action plan, it’s useless.
A few months ago, I finally chose my niche. Because it’s in personal development, I’ve been poring through as many books on the subject as I can get my hands on.
As part of this process, I came across one in particular that really changed the way I view my communication style and my relationships. It helped me take action on what I learned from all those personality tests. It’s called First Steps to Wealth.
Dani Johnson, the author, has an incredible story. She was raised on welfare, pregnant at 17, and wound up homeless at 21. But amazingly, by 23, she was a millionaire.
In her book, she gives you the tools she used to improve her life. She focuses on relationships you have and how you deal with other people.
One concept she shares is called “Gems made up of Rubies, Sapphires, Pearls, and Emeralds.”
Each represents a different personality type.
Johnson says, “You have all four Gem characteristics in you. Some people have a lot of two Gems and very little of the others. Others have quite a bit of each one in them, but they lead and communicate in one primary Gem most of the time.”
What is a Gem Personality?
Think of different Gems as of personality types. By knowing them and using the information properly, you can unlock all kinds of doors. You’ll be able to make connections with other people and understand their needs faster.
By applying the different Gem types, you can even impress your clients by communicating with them exactly like they communicate with you. Once you know their Gem type, you’ll know how they think and what type of information they need to make a decision – like hiring you.
So, which Gem are you?
A Sapphire loves socializing, they’re the life of the party, and they are motivated by fun. They like to be around a lot of people. They love variety interacting with others. They never see the negative side of a situation. They love recognition. In fact, they will work harder for recognition than they ever will for money.
From Sapphires, we can learn to not be so serious and that life can be fun if we let it.
However, Sapphires can improve by understanding not everyone is as positive as them. Sapphires often hurt other people’s feeling by seeming to not care, when really they’re just looking at the positive side of things.
For a Sapphire to enjoy the ultimate writer’s life, they should focus on working with companies that offer recognition and praise. Fundraising or speech writing might be a good niche for a Sapphire.
If your potential client is a Sapphire, make a point to praise their previous successes and always have something positive to say.
All the Gems want to help people. But helping is the prime motivator for a Pearl. They are not motivated by money. They usually have strong convictions and are called to action by a cause.
They are thoughtful and patient. They love to serve others and do not like to argue.
A Pearl loves to talk about their family. They are okay with sharing personal information while they are getting to know someone. If a Pearl senses that someone is a fake, they will lose trust in them.
Pearls, like Sapphires, love people and being around them, but not in large noisy groups.
Pearls prefer long-term relationships. They’ll be your best friends for life. They are good listeners and prefer talking to someone one on one. They are trustworthy, loyal, and true to their word.
From Pearls, we can learn the importance of helping others and keeping our word.
However, Pearls often get walked on and taken advantage of because they are so helpful. They can improve their own lives by being a bit more selective in how often they help others. It’s okay to say no if it’s not in their best interest to be helpful in a certain situation.
If you’re a Pearl, try to avoid doing too much “free” work. It might make you feel good, but it will delay your progress on your real goals.
To appeal to a prospective client that is a Pearl, use real stories (remember, they can detect if you’re fake) about your previous clients and how you’ve helped them.
Emeralds are motivated by facts and figures. Everything is black and white.
They are often weak in communication and they are judged as insensitive and cold-hearted – but they’re not. They are articulate. They are very clear with their speech so they won’t be misunderstood, and they always ask, “Why?”
Emeralds are problem solvers who come up with multiple solutions to each problem. They spend a lot of time on research to evaluate each possible solution to make sure they pick the right one. They also tend to be perfectionists and want to figure it all out before starting.
Emeralds can teach us to be more true to our word and to become more organized. They know it’s important to follow through, follow up, and do the tasks to the best of their abilities. That is something we should all strive to do.
If you’re an Emerald, you might be stuck in the learning phase. You can move past it by choosing one niche and getting started in just that area.
Also, to avoid missed opportunities, you should focus on making decisions faster.
If you have a potential client who is an Emerald, be sure to give them a lot of proof of your abilities. Include specific facts and figures about the results you’ve been able to get for other clients. Don’t leave them with lingering questions. Emeralds will do their own research, but if you give them what they need, you’ll impress them and win a sale.
Rubies like to win. They are motivated by challenges, but if they can’t win, they won’t play. They like to have the best of everything. They like to be unique and stand out. Rubies constantly have to be striving for a goal, a next step, or another challenge. Rubies are often business owners and entrepreneurs because they like to lead.
Rubies are often missing sleep and skipping breakfast because they are incredibly productive and get more done in one day than anybody else.
Rubies are proud of their accomplishments and want to tell you about them. They are also blessed with extra confidence and they’re not afraid to take a risk. They are direct and to the point, even if it hurts someone’s feelings.
If you’re a Ruby, you’re probably applying for every job that comes along, but by narrowing your focus and putting more effort into a few proposals, you’ll get better results. Also, Rubies typically need to work on their communication skills with the other Gems and learn to be more sensitive to others’ feelings.
If you have a potential client who is a Ruby, you can impress them by being an idea generator, making yourself available so they can be more productive, and by not getting offended if they hurt your feelings.
Deciding on Your Gem
As you read the above Gem types, did any stand out to you? It’s okay if the answer is no. I recommend having someone else – someone who knows you well – read the types and help you decide which one you are.
I had my husband help me out, and we determined I’m mostly a Sapphire. I’m also an Emerald when it comes to making decisions about my business and a Ruby when it comes to my goals.
Dani says when you're able to identify your primary Gem and others’ primary Gems, you will understand who you are and how you can relate to others in their environments.
All the Gems explain things a little differently. If you know this and you can recognize others’ Gem types, you’ll be able to speak their language and build better relationships that lead to success in your life and business.
Which Gem are you?
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Hello, Just started paying attention to these advise, wisdom notes. The jeweled note was excellent. Made me realize things about my self that need work. Also, how to assertain the jewels in others.
thank you, Richard
Guest (Richard) –
You're welcome Richard :)
Christina Gillick –
Great article I think I am a ruby, because I skip breakfast ext. to get so much done a day and I am always involved in new things I love it but sometimes it can be a downfall.
Guest (Ikeashia) –
I am a Emerald
Guest (Justinn) –
I am an Emerald
Guest (Reem) –
I saw a bit of all these in me, but I'm primarily a pearl because I love to help others even if I don't get paid, so this is an area I need to address.
Guest (Linda Oliver) –
I am a sapphire with Ruby tendencies and my husband is a RUBY! It was helpful to read that the things that drive me crazy are just a part of who he is! I need to read more about how to deal with him.
Guest (Wendy ) –
I'm a ruby. However, I have some of the qualities found in a pearl. I'm quite obviously motivated by a challenge, but almost any person who met me would say I was a pearl or emerald.
I think that's because I was a very bad communicator starting off. I used my knack for goal setting (found in most rubies) to improve my communication skills, and in the meantime I a new on my own communication style, which is quite different from that of most rubies.
Guest (Emma) –
I've been a pearl and didn't know it; always seeking the emerald and the ruby, as if to compensate for the sacrificial serving qualities, to help humanity even if it means to give it away...
i am a pearl surrounded by gems!
Guest (Rassika) –
I guess I would find myself as a RUBY-UNIQUE,not like others, so I do find myself a stand out at times, but not pushy or forward.And,yes, I do need to work on my communication skills!
Guest (Rubyreally) –
I am mostly a sapphire. I'm really social and love getting noticed and adore attention. I can light up a room with my charm! <3 But I also know I'm a ruby-- I'm super competitive, and I love standing out. I'm also proud. What this all tells me is that I'm a person that likes their dignity. Thanks for including this article and helping me learn about myself! :)
Guest (gianna saffron) –
I am a pearl with some sapphire around it,and this came out as a surprise to me. Before reading the article i thought i would be an emerald as it is my personal favorite gem! The above article is really helpful and is a step ahead of the usual personality analysis articles.
Guest (Green) –
I think i am an emerald.
Guest (Ali Haider) –
Im a sensative pearl
Guest (kc under68) –
I'm a pearl
Guest (Marquitia) –
Does this sapphire/emerald/pearl/ruby personality stuff have any origins in or ties to the Enneagram Method?
Guest (Scully) –
because I am not motavted to have fun&I am all about the party
Guest (I am a sapphire) –
sooooooo a sapphire
Guest (jason) –
I am a ruby everything said is exactly true about me except for the feeling part.I sometimes like to deal with situations when it's at it shallow stages rather than let it get deep before I say it.so even if i know it would hurt I still just want it done and over with.
I am still learning to control this part of me though, and so far so good.
Guest (RUBY GREEN) –
I'm a mix of sapphire ,for life, pearl, for personality, and emerald, for and school.
Guest (Jack) –
Well this probly sounds like BS but I feel I display and live by characteristics or demeanor of all gems, but i don't overdo any...Just enough to get by in the generosity and maybe a little heavy in the going all in and getting hurt, but i can shut down emotions pretty quick...empathetic to others situations and motivated by fact, truth, appreciation, and my perception of success. Army leader and not too motivated by money, but do enjoy toys ;) good info, Thanks, luvya!
Guest (JAC Shadow) –
I'm a pearl.Even to My own Detriment at times. I have a Really hard time saying no Esp if I think noone else would help. I prefer to be by Myself Rather than a loud group of people.I def have Trust issues, Esp If I think that are being untruthful or hiding something. not great in communication, if its common sense,frustrates me to explain. I mean why? I'm emerald in that I like facts and figures.I like to see it on paper.Love research to find the best course of action.
Guest (Sarah) –
I really enjoyed the Gems personality profile explanations. I’m more familiar with The DISC Blends model outlined in Dr. Robert Room’s book, ‘Who Do You Think You Are Anyway’. In this this, I find I identify with Pearl and Emerald, in that order, with Ruby and Sapphire following in order. Very interesting and enlightening.
Guest (Mark WalkingStick) –
Hi, firstly I’ve been to dani Johnson and you kinda messed up some of this but it was good for the most part! Sapphires are actually the second most intuitive gem and they are some of the first people to recognize your feelings, you are probably a ruby since you mentioned ruby em and sapph as your big three, so you just didn’t realize.
Guest (Heyitsme) –